Sunday, 21 October 2012

A Story

Hi all,

I just wanted to ask your opinion on something that happened to me the other day. I don't know if I overreacted or what and just wanted to share really. Normal makeup service will resume shortly!


I've recently taken up archery and there was a girl there who is an undergraduate psychology student. She asked me why I was shooting sitting down and why I was on crutches. I explained that I had RSD and that I was in constant pain and also that my brain found it very difficult to move my leg. She then told me that as a psychology student she knew a lot of neuroscience and knew that the brain didn't work like that so I must be making it up. She then suggested that I had munchausen syndrome!

I have to admit I lost it! I didn't swear thankfully, but  I did strongly suggest that if she thought I had managed to fool all the specialists I'd seen and was really making it up then what did she think she was doing learning psychology. Her response was to stop the NHS being taken advantage of by people like me! Then I really did lose it, told her she was a disgusting human being and that I hoped she never graduated as she was obviously not fit to work in any role with vulnerable people. At which point she stormed off and at the rest of the session made a point of staring at me and talking loudly about how I was an attention seeker and a fake.


I'm not sharing this for any sort of sympathy or pity. I just want to know if I reacted ok, did I make the situation worse by what I said? How would you react?

9 comments:

  1. I find this absolutely disgusting, the way this girl talked to you. I don't know where she went to University, but as a psychology graduate myself, I certainly know that the brain is a very complex organ and there is still so much that is not known about it. Also, know that damage, infection and so on areas of the brain can produce unusual and a variety of symptoms depending on where the abnormality is found, I have a brain stem lesion which produces constant dizziness, vertigo and something called spastic paraparesis which causes stiffness and weakness in the legs, which can make them give way a lot, some day however my mobility can be fine, but am certainly not making it up. I mean a lot of people have MS, but not everyone is affecting in the same way!!

    Well done for you for sticking up fot yourself and putting this girl in her place!! She sounds like a very narrowminded and ignorant person and as you said I hope she doesn't go into a job with mentally ill or vulnerable people as you need to be non-judgemental and understanding - which clearly she doesn't possess!! I am not sure how I would reacted as I am a very sensitive person, and am not very assertive so I probably wouldn't have confronted her and would have had a cry somewhere!

    Rhiann

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    1. Thank you so much Rhiann, was feeling like I'd inflamed the situation. I'm in two minds about identifying where I'm at university, I like keeping that bit of life to myself lol but its one of the most prestigious universities in the world, think thats why it hit me so hard as I've been feeling safe among educated people. I'm normally like you and disappear off to have cry but that day i thought no! how dare you just attack me when I'm doing nothing and lost it a bit.

      Btw. I love your blog, just followed it

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  2. What a horrible person. You reacted just fine. Well done for not swearing I would have done. Don't let her ruin something you want to do either. Hope you are ok. M x

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    1. Thank you so much lovely, I'm fine, it was very kind of you to comment xx

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  3. What a horrible person. You reacted just fine. Well done for not swearing I would have done. Don't let her ruin something you want to do either. Hope you are ok. M x

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  4. Oh my gosh what an awful thing for her to say to you!!! I mean why was she being so horrible?? Some people are just horrible, please don't be upset by its I think she has issues and was just plain nasty to you. I really don't blame you for being angry I think its shocking what she said ! x

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    1. Thank you so much sweetheart, yeah I think some people are just mean and some people think they're always right! xx

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    2. Totally agree. It makes me wonder how some people sleep at night and how they can have friends as they are such nasty people. I often wonder about lots of things lol....as you can probably tell. x

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  5. You did really well. I would have sworn (and I have to admit I have in similar occasions)so I admire your self-control. Some people seem to think that when I am on my crutches with no cast or visible injury that they and my bare feet are just some sort of fashion accessory!
    Having to get around barefoot with crutches is not what I prefer to do, espcecially on a cold wet winters day, but that is how it is, If you don't like seeing my dirty toes,too bad. At least summer is coming so I won't have to be so careful about worring about what I might step in, or have my crutches slip in!

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